a little glimpse into working with me
It occurs to me that you may not know what’s it’s like to have a Life Coach. While everyone has their own experience, here is one of my client’s experiences. I hope it will give you a glimpse into what it might feel like for you, too.
“I literally reached out on social media one day. I asked "friends" if they knew of anyone who they would recommend for mental health help. I left it vague, I even said it was for a "friend." I knew it would be believed that it was for me. I didn't care. I needed a magical person to appear and help me.
Sure I had been to a few Therapists. Nothing ever came from that. I'd sit and bullshit with the expert, listen to them tell me what was wrong with me, and leave feeling worse than ever. No, therapy was not for me. But I was not ok. My life was not going as planned. This rollercoaster was making me sick. I needed a better plan. One of my "friends" recommended Sheila Darling, a Life Coach.
A what? What even is a Life Coach? Maybe she's a cheerleader who will sis boom bah me into happiness. So I called Sheila. On a random day, in a random month.
When I arrived at Sheila's office, my first thought was, Oh God please don't let there be a couch and she had better not have the traditional box of Kleenex out.
I walked in and sat on her comfy couch and set my coffee down next to her box of Kleenex. We talked. We laughed. We said all kinds of things. I can't even remember what we talked about. I do know that I felt comfortable. It was like talking with an old friend. A friend who listens, absorbs, and is honest with me. One who isn't afraid to call me out, yet is excited to share new things with me. She taught me the model. The Model. THE MODEL. See, this model is taught, learned, used, embedded in my soul. It works. Coaching is not therapy. It's so much more.
I think of a coach as someone who gives their time to help others become better. Better players, better people, better listeners, better teammates, just plain better.
The coach knows they are only in a person's life for a short while, so they give their time to teach others to be the best they can be, using the tools they have, themselves. Then we move on. If we take what we learned and utilize these skills, we can do all kinds of things! If we were just going through the movements, then we end up stuck in neutral. What we put into learning, we get out of it. Plant corn, Get corn. A life coach is not going to tell you what plan to make. A life coach is going to show you ways to find your own path, or maybe even a few paths!
I've been seeing Sheila for two years. I have made it my choice to continue with Life Coaching with Sheila. I am always learning from her. I am now a better version of myself. I'd even say I am my own best friend. I am excited to see her, share my life with her, show her that I did listen, I did learn, and it made a difference. Last week I walked into Sheila's office. I sat down on the comfy couch, I looked around for the old KIeenex box, and I laughed to myself. Because even though I don't need these things, someone out there does, they just haven't found Sheila yet!”
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Having a Life Coach is like having someone look into your brain and your heart and helping you see what’s there in a way you can’t do yourself.
We begin with a one hour consultation to see if we are a good fit.
I can’t wait to talk with you!
Love,
Sheila