When you want faster results

When you want faster results you do all the things.  You get a coach, you read all the books, listen to all the podcasts, scour the internet.  You journal, spend time in nature, meditate, talk to your friends and family and even to strangers to see what worked for them. 

Then you feel entitled to faster results, because you’ve done all this work!

When those results don’t come as fast as you would like, you may want to reconsider your plan of action.

What do I mean by results?  Usually it means feeling something different, feeling “better.”  Whatever we do, we are always chasing a feeling.

Doing all the things makes us FEEL better in the moment because we THINK/BELIEVE that ACTION is where RESULTS happen.

If you didn’t already figure this out, ACTION is not where RESULTS happen.  You know this is true if you’ve spent time consuming all the information and doing all the things and nothing has changed.

All RESULTS come from what we THINK and BELIEVE about ourselves, our lives, other people, and everything happening around us.

Begin with accepting where you are right now.  Not in the relationship you want?  Has a loved one passed?  Going through a divorce?  Worried about your kid or your finances or your job?  Wanting to lose weight?  The people around you not doing what you think is best?  Whatever your current reality is, accepting it is the first step.   Getting really clear about your reality, stopping the action of rewriting the past in your head or planning out the future, will bring you into a place of acceptance.  

I know, logically you know these things are your present reality.  I want you to really sit with whatever it is and come to full acceptance.  This is true for you right now.  This will not always be true but right now it is.  You don’t even need to be ok with what is.  You merely need to accept it.

Usually what we work on accepting is something we don’t want.  That’s why it’s hard.  The next step is to focus on what and who you do have in your life.  Simple gratitude will shift your brain’s filter to focus on something other than what you’ve been resisting. 

Then practice constraint in your ACTIONS.   Do one thing.  Not all the things.  Do it all the time and follow through.  Want to practice gratitude?  Keep a journal every day for a month, adding what you’re grateful for each day. 

Our RESULTS come from our thoughts and beliefs.  Check in with yourself.  Do you believe you will always be alone?  Do you think you will never feel better?  Your job or your finances or your child will never be on the right track?  When you believe these things, that will become your reality.  Ask yourself if it’s possible that your thoughts are not facts.  Might you one day be in love?  Might you one day not worry about the job, finances or the kids?  Might you find peace after a loss?

I bet the answer is yes, it’s possible.  Just questioning our thoughts can give us a different perspective.

When our THOUGHTS change, our FEELINGS change.  Only then do our RESULTS change.

Try it and let me know what happens.  Contact me here.

Love,

Sheila