how to truly thrive
The best thing I ever did in my adult life was start digging deep and asking myself why I am the way I am and do the things the way I do. It takes a ton of work and intentionality but getting to know yourself on a deeper level will help you thrive.
The most important relationship we have is the one with ourselves. Imagine you are dating yourself. You know the dance. You ask those surface questions, what do you like to eat, what’s your favorite holiday, what do you do for fun, where have you traveled, getting to know your date a little at a time.
Maybe, if you feel safe, you might start to ask why. Why do you enjoy lobster? Why is your favorite holiday the 4th of July? Why did you go to Bali? You may then be able to go a little deeper. It’s easy enough on a date, when you’re getting to know someone else. If you don’t feel safe enough to share yourself or to ask deeper questions, you stop dating.
The reason the most important relationship you have is with yourself is because you can’t simply stop dating yourself. You can shut down though if you don’t feel safe. This might look like staying the same, blaming others for your bad situation, complaining about your life, not taking responsibility for how you show up in relationships with others.
Physically, your CNS (Central Nervous System) is in overdrive. It’s too uncomfortable to change, too uncomfortable to take that deeper dive. Typically, your amygdala will take over. This is your fight or flight response. Over and over again, you are exhausted from it.
Now’s the time to take that deep breath, then another. Then decide. Things can feel better, you can love yourself a little more. You can love your life a little more. But first you have to really know yourself. All the things that make you who you are that are buried in your subconscious because you were never taught to date yourself.
Knowing why you are the way you are gives data. It inspires compassion for the child you were, allows for the release of old pain and resentment. Once you know these things you can heal and decide. Decide that you are your own best friend, your ride or die. The one soul, body and mind that is there with you from beginning to end.
Once you know yourself in this way, once you love yourself in this deeply compassionate way, everything else becomes easy. Living life with ease in your health, relationships, career is all possible.
Look in the mirror, make eye contact with that beautiful soul looking back at you and smile. You’re going to get to know yourself more and more every day,
I’ve done the deep, intense work. I’ve condensed it into 3 phases for you, when you’re ready, when you feel safe enough to really know yourself. When the discomfort of seeking your truth is more palatable than doing the same shit different day. You’ll know. Because deep down, you know yourself, at least as much as you know a first date.
When you want to take the leap of faith in yourself, in me, and in my process, it looks like this:
You learn how to become PRESENT in your life
You learn about the POWER of your mind.
You work on your BELIEF.
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With Love and Joy,
Sheila