Confidence/Self-Confidence/Self-Esteem
These words are often used interchangeably. They are not the same. Here are my definitions of these terms with examples.
Read and reflect. Where do you feel these words in your body? If you sense any discomfort or unease perhaps this is where your growth lies.
Confidence: Knowing you can do something because you have done it in the past. Using past experiences as evidence that you can do something in the future. Example: You can drive because you have been driving for years.
Self Confidence: Knowing you can do something that you have not done before because you believe you can learn. You have internalized the thought of “If it’s been done by someone else, I can do it too!” Example: Starting a business, getting married, having kids.
Self-Esteem: Believing that you are worthy. You are enough. You are perfect in all your imperfections. Example: I am worthy of success, I am worthy of a great relationship, I am worthy of raising children.
So much of our identities are tied to our childhoods and our interactions in other relationships throughout our lifecycle. It can seem hard to break out of perceiving ourselves as others have and really get to know ourselves without all of that outside noise.
The inner work is possible. I know this because I’ve done it and I’ve witnessed hundreds of other humans do it too. It starts with self-confidence. The inner knowing that you are capable and worthy of this growth. Then there has to be value. We work on what we believe has high value. Does personal growth rank high on your personal values? Belief in yourself and in the process of growth.
I have put all of my education, experience and personal work into a 3 step process to help you. I have distilled all this into an easy to understand and implement process.
Presence The practice of mindfulness. Living in the present moment, practicing mindfulness brings an internal sense of peace and trust.
Power The only power (control) we have is over ourselves. We have power over out thoughts, our beliefs, our actions and reactions. We have power over every result in our lives. Learning to harness our power, rather than giving it away is the secret to embracing life with joy.
Belief Belief in the process of change, the process of loving ourselves, of loving all the parts of ourselves and our lives. Belief that we are worthy of having the life we desire. We take presence and power and put them together and form belief.
When you learn and practice these 3 steps, you have the trifecta! Confidence/Self-Confidence/Self-Esteem.
Ready? Let’s do it!
With Love and Joy,
Sheila